When you’re ready
I intentionally include “when you’re ready” in my posts about accepting childlessness not by choice. I don’t believe sustainable acceptance can be rushed. I had many trial runs with acceptance. Some fake outs. I also strongly believe you get to be pissed as hell for awhile at being childless not by choice. It is traumatic. Be pissed, sad, and confused. All the feels. However, when that little voice of acceptance starts creeping in, honor those thoughts and feelings as well. Pay attention to them and write down those thoughts. When you’re ready, those thoughts can be the foundation you use to help shift your mindset to acceptance.